SCRIPTURE:
8 That is why I am boldly asking a favor of you. I could demand it in the name of Christ because it is the right thing for you to do. 9 But because of our love, I prefer simply to ask you. Consider this as a request from me—Paul, an old man and now also a prisoner for the sake of Christ Jesus.
Philemon 1:8
OBSERVATION:
I recently read a book called Second Win written by 11-time NBA Champion Bill Russell. One particular story that stands out was the year after the Celtics lost in the Conference Finals to the 76ers and about the guy who would take over the Point Guard spot vacated by hall of famer KC Jones who was the successor to hall of famer Bob Cousy. This guy did not want to do it citing the enormous pressure the spot held and the unfair comparisons that would come his way, but, Mr. Russell would continually encourage him to do so, saying that the only way to a championship was to get his complete buy in. Russell would sit with him on bus rides, at team meals, constantly speaking words of encouragement and hope and the importance of team over individual. More so, and probably most important, Russell often reminded him that he had his back 100%.
Of course the objector finally gave in and helped Russell win another championship, 2 more to be exact. You would think a man of Russell’s legendary stature could’ve easily demanded this guy do it or have him cut…you see Russell was also the coach. But he didn’t. He chose instead to appeal to a friend, and it worked.
Paul writes that he could easily demand that Onesimus be treated with love and compassion by Philemon, but instead he chose to appeal to a friend. Instead of being Commander General, he approaches the situation more as a co-laborer and fellow servant. Paul says, “I want you to help because you are willing, not because I say so.”
The current climate calls for wise and gracious leadership. The tasks ahead are huge and often times the quickest way to completion is by swift strategizing and firm commands. Unfortunately going that route creates a corporate environment rather than a volunteer-driven one.
APPLICATION:
Just as Russell asked a friend rather than demanded, my target needs to be clearly zeroed in on the relationship and heart rather than the task and skill. I’m sure God finds much more joy in a job completed with relationships in tact rather than an excellently done job with tension all around.
As Paul writes to Philemon there are a few clear takeaways on “How I will be different today”:
- To lead is to serve.
- Ask instead of demand.
- Guide don’t goad.
- Value others more than myself.
In addition, Paul clearly communicates an important principle in my dealings with Christians. When all else fails, go back to Jesus: Pure & Simple. Paul expertly communicates his desire by appealing to Philemon as a fellow lover of Jesus to do what Jesus would do, receive Onesimus like the father received the prodigal son.
PRAYER:
Jesus, thank you for always having the best answer to all the questions. May I be quicker to realize that the only source of knowledge I need is found in You. Help me to be pure and simple in both my requests and answers to others, showing your pure and simple love in all I do. Amen
